Overfeeding does not happen often when breastfeeding, but can happen when giving your baby a bottle. When a baby is overfed, they cannot properly digest their formula or breastmilk and it can cause them pain in their stomachs and gas. This is where paced feeding comes to the rescue. It’s useful for babies to be able to control how much milk they get.
Every generation has their share of motherly myths – from how to induce labor to determining gender in the womb. There are even myths about breastfeeding -- will going out without your little one affect your milk supply? We have the answers.
Up until now, your 2-month old was feeding perfectly on both breast and bottle. But all of a sudden he/she has completely lost interest in the bottle and will even scream if it’s brought too close. You’re starting to panic and wonder if your baby will ever be able to drink from a bottle again! Sound familiar? If so, there is a likely chance your newborn is going through a very normal and expected behavioral reflex change called the “two-month mark”. Understanding the developmental reasons behind this seemingly spontaneous behavior will reassure moms like you that you aren’t alone and bottle-feeding can still be successful.
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We were matched for the first time in November 2012 and had two months until baby was due. At that point, I had no idea breastfeeding as an adoptive mom was possible. The expectant mom, who was in college five hours away, was very health conscious and wanted baby to have breast milk. She wanted to breastfeed in the hospital and then wanted me to take over as soon as we left. I saw a lactation consultant and began the process.
I admit it: Second time mothers think they know everything. If something worked well or well enough with the first child, we plan to give the second the same treatment and not change a thing. But let’s face it—this would only work if nothing were different. Something is always different.
I was a NICU mother with my first child. Having spent critical ‘latching’ weeks in the NICU, my first newborn just wasn’t interested in breastfeeding when she was released. When she finally came home, I was happy just to have her in my arms and I wasn’t going to insist on breastfeeding. We had all been through enough.
My second baby latched immediately and breastfeeding was quickly established. Already, we were in uncharted parenting waters. This baby would feed almost exclusively from me. While I obliged, we had two factors to consider. First of all, I would be going back to work soon. Second, my husband, who had bonded so nicely with our first baby, felt detached with our second little bundle of joy because he wasn’t involved in the feeding routine. A bottle would definitely need to be part of the mix.
As Mother’s Day approaches, let’s put down our weapons and celebrate what we all have in common: our glorious Mom Bods.
Becoming a mother through adoption has been an incredible journey. My husband and I adopted two boys, five weeks and two cities apart. They’re our version of twins. Choosing this route (or sometimes, this route choosing you) obviously means that some things that come naturally in biological parent-child relationships require sacrifice and a little creativity. Having always wanted to become a mother, I held onto images of what that would look like -- pregnancy, birth, nursing. With our boys coming to us through adoption, I had to let go of those images and allow new ones of an adoptive family to enter in. I also had to let go of feelings of inadequacy and embrace a different style. But that didn’t mean I didn’t grieve the loss of breastfeeding and physical bonding, it was still real, and that’s OK. I yearned to physically bond with my baby; I just had to think beyond the boob!
No, babies do not confuse a bottle for their mom’s breast—which is why the term itself is rather confusing. But as with anything in the lactation world, it’s not that black and white. Let’s dig in to why…
This article originally appeared on Working Moms Against Guilt.
Whether you’re pregnant, want a baby, or are home right now (exhausted) with a newborn, you’ve probably wondered what it will be like going back to work. I mean, how do people DO it?
Well, I did it, and millions of other moms have too. It ain’t easy, but it is possible.
Over the years, we’ve collected lots of wisdom and advice from many women on what it takes to go back to work like a champ. In a partnership with mimijumi, the back-to-work baby bottle brand, Working Moms Against Guilt is sharing our top tools and tips to make the back-to-work journey guilt-free for all moms. I think you’ll find this list of must-have gear and habits invaluable, whether you’re breastfeeding, formula feeding, pumping, or a combination that works for you.