I can all but guarantee that if you work your way through motherhood doing only what is best for your child, you will risk burning out. One of the hardest parts of the journey is finding balance between what is best for your baby and what is best for you, or at least not harming yourself in the process.
Your first Mother’s Day is kind of a Big Deal. Your life has been flipped upside-down and you should celebrate and be celebrated. As I know, life as a new mom is amazing, but it is also a huge transition. Finding you and your baby's own rhythm can be challenging and sometimes tiresome, but once you become synchronized, every day you will fall in love with being a new mom all over again.
There is a lot of talk about how much you should be feeding your baby. It’s all about The Goldie Locks Complex- not too much, not too little, but just right. But all babies are different, so how much is too much or too little for your baby? Cue the dreaded response: It depends.
Becoming a mom is an overwhelming life event that has many, many rewards but many moms feel like they lose a piece of their former themselves in the process. You are not alone. Losing oneself in motherhood can be scary. It can feel like you will never see the old you again. We have spokent to many mimijumi moms and here are a few tips for staying connected to your former self while embracing your new role as mother.
Three weeks ago, at 3 months old, my daughter started daycare. Two weeks prior to starting, my husband and I began offering her a bottle and we quickly realized we were in for a struggle. She'd mostly play with the nipple of the bottles, let the milk dribble in her mouth and then she'd spit it out.
Up until now, your 2-month old was feeding perfectly on both breast and bottle. But all of a sudden he/she has completely lost interest in the bottle and will even scream if it’s brought too close. You’re starting to panic and wonder if your baby will ever be able to drink from a bottle again! Sound familiar? If so, there is a likely chance your newborn is going through a very normal and expected behavioral reflex change called the “two-month mark”. Understanding the developmental reasons behind this seemingly spontaneous behavior will reassure moms like you that you aren’t alone and bottle-feeding can still be successful.
Imagine you’re a new mom who can’t afford to miss even one shift at work.
Imagine you’re a mom who must choose between buying food or clean diapers for your child.
When you leave for work, you need a bottle you know your baby will accept. If you are breastfeeding, you need a bottle that will allow your baby to go back and forth from breast to bottle to breast.
For you, baby refusing the bottle or going on hunger strike are not just stressful anecdotes, they are full-blown crises.
Tell us about your adoption journey!
My adoption journey started when I left New Zealand and went to live in Papua New Guinea (PNG) in 2010; I was teaching at an International school. Adoption is very common. I had always wanted to adopt, and felt it was the perfect way to complete my family. I registered at the local orphanage, at the local hospitals, and let it be known via word of mouth that I was hoping to adopt. And of course, I prayed! Several months later, the sister of one of my students gave birth to a baby girl. I was contacted by the guardians (her birth mother was 14) and asked if I wanted to adopt the baby. Of course, I said yes!
Tell us about your adoption story…
We were matched for the first time in November 2012 and had two months until baby was due. At that point, I had no idea breastfeeding as an adoptive mom was possible. The expectant mom, who was in college five hours away, was very health conscious and wanted baby to have breast milk. She wanted to breastfeed in the hospital and then wanted me to take over as soon as we left. I saw a lactation consultant and began the process.
Adoption is a beautiful way to welcome children into your family, whether they’re babies or older children; children from abroad or closer to home; from foster care or through an agency. Adoption can vary so much, just like the shades of skin, ages, stages and personalities of the children you welcome home. Bryan and I adopted our two boys at birth, five weeks apart (have you read our story?). Malachi is Native American, African-American and Caucasian, and Isaiah is African-American. Most passerby see our double stroller and assume twins -- until they take a closer look! They often have the curiously awkward “How could this be?” question, and we smile and share the story of bringing our family together. Adoption means we didn’t fit the mold: we created a new one!