I admit it: Second time mothers think they know everything. If something worked well or well enough with the first child, we plan to give the second the same treatment and not change a thing. But let’s face it—this would only work if nothing were different. Something is always different.
I was a NICU mother with my first child. Having spent critical ‘latching’ weeks in the NICU, my first newborn just wasn’t interested in breastfeeding when she was released. When she finally came home, I was happy just to have her in my arms and I wasn’t going to insist on breastfeeding. We had all been through enough.
My second baby latched immediately and breastfeeding was quickly established. Already, we were in uncharted parenting waters. This baby would feed almost exclusively from me. While I obliged, we had two factors to consider. First of all, I would be going back to work soon. Second, my husband, who had bonded so nicely with our first baby, felt detached with our second little bundle of joy because he wasn’t involved in the feeding routine. A bottle would definitely need to be part of the mix.